What superpower best represents you? What’s your Greek God
name? Which character from Game of Thrones are you? What can your star sign
predict about your relationships? What are your core personality traits? Who is
your ideal lover? Who are you? Who are you?
There is a concept called anattā in Buddhist philosophy,
which literally means “non-self”. It is a core doctrine of Buddhism, and argues
that there are no unchanging, permanent characteristics in people; no fixed
personality traits, no ‘core of self’, no soul.
Non-self has always been a radical concept in Western countries
because so much of what we value stems from being an individual. In a
capitalist society – where we work for what we have, buy what we choose, and
forge our own paths through life – it becomes easy to identify with what we do,
what we have, and what we seek to achieve.
Not only does ‘non-self’ challenge these pillars of Western
culture, it goes against our very nature. Humans have evolved, effectively for
the most part, as pattern-recognition machines. Two things that appear similar
match; add a third and it becomes a pattern.
Thanks to, Gestalt psychology, we know that humans seek patterns wherever we can. |
These behaviours served us well through our rise to the top
of the food chain. Recognising patterns in the environment ensured our
survival, and as we began to develop consciousness and theory of mind, we
noticed patterns within ourselves too. What made us tick, the things we responded
to in the environment, and the people we were drawn towards became core
components of how we saw ourselves as individuals.
They do to this day.
In recent years, our pursuit of individualism has been
studied through the lens of the quantified self. Just look at horoscopes. The
desire to quantify our behaviours and personalities as something tangible has
led some of us to believe that the fixed patterns of star systems billions of
light years away hold some significance to our personal lives. Before you know it, a vague prediction that could apply to just
about anyone feels suddenly relevant.
Most personality tests use this same logic. |
Modern culture exacerbates this desire. Advertisers invoke analysis paralysis, giving us the ability to hold
preferences in categories we didn’t even know we could hold preferences for.
How else could something as fundamentally simple as Coke and Nutella’s personalisation campaigns be so
effective? Why else would cereal companies position themselves as artisanal,
feel good products that can ‘complete you’? Why else would fast food outlets
make charity donations in your name
with every purchase?
Social media and digital apps have capitalised on this
beautifully. With one click of a button we can proudly tell the whole world
that we have voted. Snapchat and Instagram filters allow us to express ourselves
in a way we believe align with our sense of self. The sheer number of emojis,
gifs, and stickers available to us is staggering.
Perhaps unwittingly, through the pursuit of individualism,
through the process of quantifying ourselves, we have created a culture of
identity politics, in which self-expression and attachment to pop culture are
the biggest indicators of social status. The more individualistic you are, the
more interesting you are.
And just look at monetised mobile games, most popular with
the generation that complains about millennial work ethic and phones at the
dinner table. A single app can sap hundreds of dollars
out of someone with enough money to not care. Is this because they’re all
addictive, or because incremental payments reward us with more options, more
choice, more ways to express
ourselves and signal it to others.
They're not even subtle about ripping people off anymore. |
Virtue signalling. Self-expression. Quantified self. These
are the hallmarks of becoming a successful individualist. ‘Non-self’ challenges
these ideas, and yet the benefits of easing up on the ego pedal have been demonstrated
again and again
and again.
So can too much individualism actually stifle us?
Take the case of gender, originally derived from the duality
of biological sex. These days – as written by Rebecca Reilly-Cooper – gender has become a spectrum, but not the one originally
envisioned.
The ‘old’ spectrum mirrors biological sex – with
‘masculinity’ at one end and ‘femininity' at the other – and a mishmash of both
in between. This makes sense. Biologically, you have testosterone or oestrogen
or a mix of both. You have ovaries or testes or a bit of both.
Nowadays, gender has become a staple of identity politics;
another fixed category appropriated by those obsessed with honing their
identity down to the increasingly specific. People who adopt gender in this way
typically feel as though ‘masculinity’ and ‘femininity’ are arbitrary;
reflecting oppressive, old world, patriarchal structures.
But it doesn’t add up. You can call yourself agender (not
identifying as male or female), but the reality is you will always have more of
one hormone or the other. Your chromosomal structure will always lean more
towards the biologically male or the biologically female. There is no magic
‘third thing’.
Or fourth, or fifth, or sixth... |
Gender as a concept was a developed as a way for one to
socially identify with the biological sexual characteristics that make up a
person. A person’s gender cannot be ‘space’ or ‘fruit’ or their own fucking name in the same way that their race
cannot be ‘Mercurian’.
Regardless, we have developed a societal need to internalise everything we identify
with, or are attached to, as deeply as possible. And we have been led to
believe that this is a happy and healthy pursuit; a path to self-actualisation.
Individualism relies on a culture of ‘self’, in that we all
have innate or ‘hardwired’ personality traits that can be built upon, or
uncovered, by our cultural upbringing. This is an appealing notion, but the
research just doesn’t support it. In fact, the more we discover about personality and
cognition, the more it appears that very few traits and behaviours, excluding conditional
reflexes, are inherent within us from birth.
We are fast discovering that there may be no ‘core self’; something that personality psychologists have
struggled to predict for decades. It’s a daunting thought for many of us because
it takes away from all we’ve built. What do our personal tastes say about
ourselves if there is no fixed ‘self’ to anchor them to?
"Without my personal tastes, I am nothing. Nothing!" |
But daunting as it may be, the evidence is in. What we may
have once thought of as a core sense-of-self is an ever-evolving societal
mechanism. Studies have shown that the emotional residue from decisions made
months in passing can continue to impact future decisions, even when the source of the emotion has been forgotten.
The unconscious is a powerful tool and influences so much of
our behaviour. We buy Pepsi over a home brand because of memory structures
built up through years of advertising exposure, but will buy a home brand on a
whim when it looks almost identical to a name brand
and is cheaper too.
People buy commodities based on habit, so why not make everything look like everything else? |
We hold onto faulty beliefs in the face of overwhelming
evidence due to confirmation bias, or cognitive dissonance, or regular and
normative environmental exposure, or the fact that it was taught to us as a child
by mum and dad and therefore acts as a baseline for how we critically evaluate
the world as we grow old.
So much of what we believe makes us ‘who we are’ is out of
our control. So much of our personality is influenced by the environment,
personal idols, advertising, religion, pre-conceived beliefs, cultural
upbringing, family tradition, and general System 1 style thinking that it’s a
wonder we still believe that complete and total self-knowledge is within our
grasp.
And, as written by Mark Manson,
the only thing the Buddhists did to discover this was remove themselves from the
external bullshit for a few years. But to a lot of us, ‘non-self’ is as radical
as an idea can get.
This doesn’t necessarily mean that shifting from aesthetic
to ascetic pursuits will make us happier. It’s about being in tune with what
really matters and filtering out anything that doesn’t, because really, nobody cares
about the brand of iced coffee you drink and ‘what it says about you’.
The only people saying we
do care are those who stand to make a buck.
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